There’s a lot of misinformation and misogynistic ridicule out there about female squirting, or ejaculation, but the truth is that it’s normal for women to squirt during masturbation. It’s also a very powerful sexual experience.
Squirting involves a thick, milky fluid that some women expel during orgasm. It’s not a myth and can be achieved with the right foreplay techniques.
1. Get Her Attention
A big part of getting a girl to ejaculate is having her focus on pleasure. That’s why it’s important to start with arousal and intimacy building. Compliment her, touch her in a sensual way (like stroking her hair and neck), leave lingering scents on her skin and engage her in conversation that has depth and intrigue.
It’s also a good idea to familiarize yourself with the female anatomy so that you can pinpoint her pleasure zones and target them for stimulation. There are plenty of websites dedicated to this kind of education, including OMGYES, which provides a virtual exploration of her clitoris, vagina and vulva. You can even practice your strokes and taps, varying pressure, direction and speed to see what works best for her.
Finally, remember that squirting is unique to each woman and doesn’t always manifest as the gushing explosion that’s portrayed in porn. In many cases, squirting is only produced when there’s penetration with a sex toy or fingering play.
For those who are ready to take their pleasure game up a notch, try the cli-mate squirting vibe, which features three different parts: a curved tip that massages her G-spot and shaft, a clit stimulator with tiny “pleasure nubs” that rub against her trigger point and a smaller backdoor vibe for anal play. It can be used with or without a condom and is compatible with any sex lube.
2. Turn On Her G-Spot
A girl’s G-spot is the area in the front wall of her vagina where you can feel a rough patch that is slightly higher than the rest of the tissue. It is a common trigger for female ejaculation and many sexual pleasure toys are designed to stimulate the G spot.
You can find the G spot by inserting your finger or a toy, preferably with some lubrication. Some people also like to use a penis in this position because it can be aimed specifically at the G-spot.
To do this, begin by massaging the opening of her vagina with your fingers, using a “come hither” motion. This can get her turned on, and it will help her to relax the muscles that control her pelvic floor.
Once she is relaxed, you can insert your middle finger and begin stimulating the G-spot, which will engorge with blood as you stroke it. Often, this is enough to bring on the sensations of clitoral pleasure.
The exact location of the G-spot varies from woman to woman, and it can be more difficult to locate at first because of its tucked-away nature. Luckily, there are a variety of sex positions that can allow you to gently probe the area, such as the raised missionary position or a double penetration technique. The key is to make sure there’s a balance between penetration and pressure.
3. Stimulate Her Clitoris
The clitoris, which is like an iceberg that sticks out from the top of a woman’s vulva (that pea-sized nub you see called the glans), can be one of the most pleasurable parts of the body for both men and women. The clitoral hood and shaft are surrounded by 8,000 nerves that create electrical pleasure responses when touched or stimulated.
Stimulating the clitoral hood or shaft can feel great with your fingers, your partner’s fingers or lips/tongue, a vibrator or even friction from your underwear. Using foreplay and intimate relaxation techniques is essential to getting the most out of these stimulating actions.
Start out with a light touch or a tapping type of motion, adjusting the pressure as needed. If she doesn’t reach orgasm right away, don’t worry. It takes a lot of practice and patience to find the right amount of pressure that feels good for each person.
If you’re feeling adventurous, try touching or stroking her clitoral hood or shaft directly. This is a more advanced move, and can be incredibly pleasurable for many women when done right. Just make sure to use plenty of lubrication! This technique can feel especially intense when used with a partner, but it’s also great for solo masturbation. The clitoral hood or shaft can be a very sensitive spot and should only be touched when you are sure that she is completely aroused.
4. Get Her Involved
Getting a girl to squirt is all about getting her involved. It isn’t enough to simply touch her penis, or to lick her clitoris repeatedly. A girl has to feel the thrill of the contact and the pleasure that it generates to reach a full orgasm.
This means that foreplay is vital, and it should be playful. Kissing is a great way to start, and discovering new places that turn her on is also fun. Many women like to be masturbated on, but it is important to remember that they have different preferences when it comes to technique and pressure. Some prefer a lot of tongue stimulation while others want the whole vulva to be licked and rubbed.
Finally, don’t forget to listen to her. If she is saying she’s done, or that something you are doing is not working, then it’s time to stop. It’s not fair that you have to continue to work for her pleasure, especially if she has already reached orgasm.
Getting a woman to squirt isn’t easy, and it will take time to learn what makes her tick. However, if you are patient and persistent, then you will eventually get her to give you the pleasure that you want. If you are still having trouble, then it’s a good idea to consider working with a therapist or a sexual health professional to see what can be done to help you get her there.
